1. gradientlair:

    Inspired by the truth and power of #ITooAmHarvard, people of colour who are students at University of Oxford in the U.K. created #ITooAmOxford to speak of their experiences with racism on campus. The photographs are diverse (there’s more on their site) and here I included some of the ones of Black women/women of African descent (my apologies if I misread any genders) as I did when I posted my now viral post on I Too Am Harvard because again it reveals the racist assumptions about both their intelligence and appearance, something I dealt with as a Black woman when I was younger and in undergrad/grad. I also noticed the sense of “place” and nationality that impacts the stereotypes that they face. 

    This is a point for the lies about racism being uniquely American to stop. Now. Today. I am tired of weekly emails from Whites ahistorically announcing how racism does not exist in the U.K. It is not their place to make that determination anyway; only Black and other people of colour can. The person who experiences the oppression, not the oppressor, the oppressed, not the privileged, speak truth to the experiences.

    These students are speaking their truths. Do not ignore them. Their lives matter. They deserve better than the stress and even physical/mental health issues that dealing with racism can cause. Stereotype threat is real and impacts academic performance and health. 

    I wish these students the best. Much love. 



  3. "A decade ago, I sat talking to a young mother on welfare about her experiences with technology. When our conversation turned to Electronic Benefit Transfer cards (EBT), Dorothy* said, “They’re great. Except [Social Services] uses them as a tracking device.” I must have looked shocked, because she explained that her caseworker routinely looked at her EBT purchase records. Poor women are the test subjects for surveillance technology, Dorothy told me ruefully, and you should pay attention to what happens to us. You’re next."
  4. strugglingtobeheard:


    #maleproverbs is a hasthtag (started by @brownaandlovely, according to Topsy) that explored the impact of patriarchy and how men often use the same statements over and over; because of male privilege, such statements align with status quo thinking and are thereby “normalized.” 

    Naturally the usual derailment came (i.e. "not ‘all’ men, "I don’t do that," "reverse sexism!", "you women are mean/bitter," etc.) instead of them realizing that if 19K+ tweets are sent on a topic in a couple of days by women who have better things to do than “make up stories” that coincidentally other women have experienced as well, maybe patriarchal oppression and sexism are institutional. Maybe misogyny, misogynoir and transmisogyny are real. But no, derailment and denial are always the expression of privilege. Many of the tweets I saw in the topic and shared described hetero men, but to be clear, gay men can also be misogynistic and can have male privilege.

    Not a single word in my tweets above are exaggerated (not even the last one), and I have written essays on most of what is covered in the tweets. I WISH misogyny and misogynoir (some things that I tweeted are particular to the impact of White supremacy, racism and anti-Blackness on misogyny, thereby impacting Black women differently, and impacts how Black men target anti-Black misogyny or misogynoir towards Black women) were “made up.”

    Sadly, some men of colour who know racism is real were angered by this trending topic on sexism and misogyny. Everything is okay to discuss until the specific privilege that someone has is in question. Oppression is not linear though. And of course a lot of trolling and attacks by White men occurred. But again, as I mentioned before, people with privilege aren’t used to being checked or disagreed with. Social media has upset the order. Knocked a few gems off their crowns. The silence that the privileged love so dearly is being upset by a large voice made up of smaller ones. (Must note that some men called misogyny out as well; not all trolled, which was great. Also, some people called out others being cissexist and specifically associating cis men’s bodies with all men; that’s not helpful in calling out male privilege and patriarchy.)

    i’ve experienced just about all of these both online and offline. thank you for writing this. these motherfuckers.


  7. stoptellingwomentosmile:

    Diana, Chicago, 2013

    (via noterajeschicanita)


  8. thylaed:

    shout out to people who are scared to call others out, whose hands shake when they try to explain what’s wrong, whose throats threaten to close up with thoughts of ‘what if i’m just overreacting’, whose hearts are pounding out of their chests because they just stuck their necks out for their beliefs, who have lost friends and respect and safety for aligning themselves with causes

    (Source: princepatroclus, via phalange)

  9. wildcosmia:

    "We teach girls to shrink themselves to make themselves smaller. We say to girls, ‘You can have ambition but not too much. You should aim to be successful but not too successful otherwise you will threaten the man.’ Because I am female I am expected to aspire to marriage. I am expected to make my life choices always keeping in mind that marriage is the most important. A marriage can be a source of joy and love and mutual support, but why do we teach girls to aspire to marriage and we don’t teach boys the same? We raise girls to see each other as competitors, not for jobs or for accomplishments, which I think can be a good thing, but for the attention of men. We teach girls that they can not be sexual beings in the way that boys are. Feminist: A person who believes in the social, political and economic equality of the sexes."

    ***Flawless - Beyoncé ft Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

    feliz BeyDay

    (via decolonizeyourmind)


  10. "

    A Litany for Survival

    For those of us who live at the shoreline
    standing upon the constant edges of decision
    crucial and alone
    for those of us who cannot indulge
    the passing dreams of choice
    who love in doorways coming and going
    in the hours between dawns
    looking inward and outward
    at once before and after
    seeking a now that can breed
    like bread in our children’s mouths
    so their dreams will not reflect
    the death of ours


    For those of us
    who were imprinted with fear
    like a faint line in the center of our foreheads
    learning to be afraid with our mother’s milk
    for by this weapon
    this illusion of some safety to be found
    the heavy-footed hoped to silence us
    For all of us
    this instant and this triumph
    We were never meant to survive.


    And when the sun rises we are afraid
    it might not remain
    when the sun sets we are afraid
    it might not rise in the morning
    when our stomachs are full we are afraid
    of indigestion
    when our stomachs are empty we are afraid
    we may never eat again
    when we are loved we are afraid
    love will vanish
    when we are alone we are afraid
    love will never return
    and when we speak we are afraid
    our words will not be heard
    nor welcomed
    but when we are silent
    we are still afraid.


    So it is better to speak
    we were never meant to survive.

    — Audre Lorde (via queerwoc)

    (via guerrillamamamedicine)